‘Want to know the signs of conditioning so that you can protect yourself from it? These are the surefire signs to watch for.

Bullies and abusers have ways of conditioning you without you ever being aware that they’re doing it. In most cases, you won’t notice it until it has totally changed you and ruined your life. As someone who has been there and overcome it, I’m sharing the signs you need to know to stay safe.

You are going to learn about all the early signs of conditioning so that bullies can no longer play these mind games with you.

After learning about the signs of conditioning, you will be prepared and no longer easy to manipulate.

This post is all about the signs of conditioning that every victim and target of bullying should be aware of.

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What is it? In simplest terms, conditioning happens when others brainwash you to accept something you normally wouldn’t. Therefore, unscrupulous people will psychologically condition you to believe many falsehoods and accept all kinds of abuse.

This is how people get programmed, and extreme abuses get normalized.

Therefore, when you’re a victim of bullying, bullies will condition you to roll over and take their abuse. Over time, they slowly “Pavlov” you to believe any lie they say until they convince you to turn on yourself.

Conditioning doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a slow, incremental, bit-by-bit process that can be soft and subtle.

In other words, conditioning starts out small and is barely recognizable at first.  At this stage, you must know how to recognize it.

Why? Because the longer it goes on and the more severe the abuses become, the harder it is to defend yourself against it.

One thing that will help you recognize it is that your body will feel it. And you’ll sense it in the vibes the people you’re dealing with give off.

So, how do you know your bullies are conditioning you?

Here are the signs:

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5 Signs You’re being Conditioned:

You’ll know by the feelings you have.

1. You begin Feeling guilty for defending yourself, speaking out about the bullying you suffer, and reporting the bullying to authority

This most commonly occurs with empaths. However, anyone can fall victim. If you aren’t careful, you will likely be used and abused like a dirty rug.

Therefore, you must put your needs first. And there will be times when you will need to stand up for yourself.

You have a right not to be abused, and you are just as good as the next person. You wouldn’t inflict pain on anyone else. And you should never allow others to inflict pain on you.

Self-care is never selfish. It’s essential.

Therefore, continue to stand up for yourself. Don’t stop taking care of yourself. Because if you don’t look out for yourself, no one else will either.

Remember that you aren’t responsible for their feelings. In a situation of bullying, all you have is yourself. And your greatest weapon is your voice. Use it! Don’t lose it!

2. Another sign of conditioning is Feeling that the bullying you suffer is all your fault.

Anytime you blame yourself for the bullying you suffer, your bullies have conditioned you. Therefore, understand this right now! It’s not your fault!

You are not responsible for your bullies’ behavior. Their horrid actions reflect their choices, not yours.

Moreover, you cannot control another person’s behavior. The only person’s behavior you have control over is your own.

So, when you blame yourself for being bullied, you are taking responsibility for something you can’t control. And that’s the behavior of others.

Do not allow them to condition you to believe that things beyond your control are your fault! They aren’t.

3. You start feeling like a heel for saying no.

Saying “no” can be difficult and at times, even downright scary. If you’re a person who believes in helping your fellow man, the last thing you want is to let someone down. However, there are times when saying yes to someone else is saying no to yourself.

When you say no, it doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person. And this goes especially when bullies are trying to force you to do something you don’t want to do.

It’s how you set boundaries. And setting limits is healthy.

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What to do if they threaten you.

But what if your bullies threaten either physical harm if you don’t comply with their wishes? Or, what if they threaten social exclusion?

Nobody wants to get hurt. The natural human response is to submit and make the pain stop. In your mind, you’re thinking, “Alright, alright! I’ll do it if you’ll go away and leave me alone!”

Therefore, you fall for the false promises that they’ll stop hurting you. BUT!

Realize that bullies and abusers never make good on those promises. The harassment won’t stop. If anything, it will only get worse.

Why? Because your bullies have benefited from forcing you to say yes. And they’ve probably been getting those benefits for a long time now.

Your bullies never stopped the harassment before. So, why would they stop now?

Saying no to a bully is never an easy option.

Bullies don’t take no for an answer, least of all from their victims! However, you must say it anyway! Why? Because it’s how you take care of yourself.

Therefore, begin saying no, and do it often. And realize that you can’t change a bully. But be forewarned.

The bullies will probably keep pushing your boundaries. They may even retaliate. And if they do, it isn’t your fault. And it’s not your responsibility.

So be ready to defend yourself if you have to. The only time you should say yes to bullies is if they pull a gun. Otherwise, stick to your answer.

Saying no is risky. It always has been. Your bullies may threaten you with the business end of their fists, and you may come out of it with a shiner and a fat lip.

However, those wounds will heal. But the psychological injury of wishing you hadn’t let yourself down will last for years.

Again, you must say no, even if it makes others angry.

4. another hallmark of conditioning is when You feel like the biggest wuss on the planet.

You know the feeling. When you know you let someone else force you to do something you didn’t want to? It left a psychological injury that took a long time to recover from.

You ended up asking yourself, “Now, why didn’t I tell those creeps to take a flying leap off the highest cliff headfirst?” That feeling of powerlessness can be worse than any physical pain you’ve ever suffered.

 And you blame yourself for not standing up to your bullies. You think that maybe you’re not strong enough. I’m not this enough, and I’m not that enough. This is another sign of conditioning.

However, you must know that your bullies act up not because you aren’t firm enough. And don’t think it was because you aren’t any good at defending yourself.

It’s because your bullies are a bunch of pathetic, self-entitled turds. Bullies are abusers, and abusers have a talent for conditioning their victims.

Abusers expect the rest of the world to bow down and kiss their behinds. Therefore, none of that is your fault.

Understand that their behavior isn’t your guilt to carry. Begin standing up for yourself. And refuse to believe the lies your bullies try to drum into your head.

REPEAT!

Don’t fall for their power plays. Stand up! Stand tall! And stand firm, no matter what.

Conditioning:

5. Your body will feel those icky vibes your bullies are putting out.

You’ll sense it when something feels “off.” Moreover, you’ll feel it in the pit of your stomach. And sometimes, you’ll feel it before the first words are exchanged.

This is, perhaps, the most important sign of all. Why? Because, as mentioned earlier, conditioning is soft and subtle in the beginning. And you don’t even notice it.

However, here’s your first clue: Your body will tell you if you pay attention to it. Your body, particularly your gut, will pick up on it.

Many targets of bullying often mistake this feeling for “just having paranoia.” Therefore, they ignore it. But this is the last thing you should do.

Understand that God gave us all that “sixth sense.” Some people call it your “gut feeling.” Others use the term “instinct.”

Therefore, whenever you get a bad feeling in your gut about someone, you are not overreacting. And you are not overreacting.

What you’re doing is picking up on that person’s energy. Your inner alarm is trying to warn you and keep you safe.

You must trust your gut. Pay attention to other people’s energy. Energy doesn’t lie, and neither does your instinct!

If you ever catch bad vibes from someone, steer clear of them. Instead, get as far away from them as you can and as fast as you can! You will save yourself a lot of trouble, I promise!

This post was all about the signs of conditioning to help you to recognize these indicators early on and protect yourself.

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