‘Want to know about bullying and conditioning and how they relate? Here are all the details you need to know.
Bullies are just like any other type of abusers. They often condition you to take more and more crap. In this post, you will learn all about bullying and conditioning so you can protect yourself from them.
Once you discover all these crucial details, you will be better equipped to defend yourself from bullies and abusers and save your mental health.
This post is all about bullying and conditioning, so that you know how they relate and what you can do to take care of yourself.
Bullying and Conditioning
Have you heard of the Boiled Frog Method? Here’s how we can describe it. It’s the method bullies use to condition you to accept bigger, more severe abuse and violations.
Gradualism and Incrementalism
Bullying always starts subtly. Drop by drop, bullies start off taking teeny-weeny bites out of your self-esteem. They make a sarcastic comment here, and a backhanded compliment there.
They take it up ever so slowly, bit-by-bit. In fact, the abuse is so tiny that it isn’t noticeable. Yet you feel something is off. Something just doesn’t feel good, but you can’t quite put a finger on it. It’s that subtle!
Your first clue
Your body will know if you pay attention to it.
When you meet your bullies for the first time, you will pick up on some pretty creepy vibes. You’ll feel it in the pit of your stomach.
There will be something about them that feels “off.” And you’ll feel it before the first words are exchanged.
You will notice them watching your every move, scoping you out, studying you like a specimen. Or you may look up from whatever you’re doing and see them eyeing you from across the room.
You may see them out of the corner of your eye, huddled together and watching you. Then you will notice them look at each other and smirk. They’ll have that eerie twinkle in their eyes. You might even see a micro-flash or two of contempt.
Don’t ignore this!
Understand what they’re doing. They’re sizing you up – probing to see what excites you and what doesn’t.
Bullying and Conditioning:
Committing slightly bigger violations.
Next, they begin with subtle verbal abuse. You’ll barely notice it. These bullies will throw out a backhanded compliment here and a little dig there.
Then they’ll watch to see how you react. They make the abuse almost unrecognizable. You know, but you can’t prove it. After all, the insult may sound innocent.
You may question yourself. Or, you may fear that if you jab back, you may come off sounding “too sensitive.”
But understand that bullies do this deliberately. Not only do they do this to make you question yourself. They also do it to soften you up.
Therefore, the abuse is virtually unrecognizable… until it isn’t.
Upping the Ante
So, over time, the bullying gets worse. By the time it’s recognizable, the abuse is so out of control that the bullies can’t help themselves.
Moreover, they don’t even try to hide it anymore. Why continue to put in the work to hide something you’ve gotten away with for so long? And why stop when there’s no incentive to? Right?
By the time the abuse becomes obvious, it’s usually too late. Why? Because everyone has grown accustomed to bullying you. In fact, they’ve gotten comfortable with doing it.
And once they’ve grown accustomed to it, it’s almost impossible to get them to leave you alone, no matter how you stand up to them.
Bullying and Conditioning:
They punish you for standing up to them.
When you get fed up and put your foot down, bullies will only double down on their behavior. They will get angry at you for defending yourself. And they will find ways to punish you.
Realize that these people want power. And when you defend yourself, you threaten their power.
They don’t give a damn about the pain they inflict. You’re a target, and they darn well intend for you to stay that way.
Bullies get their kicks out of bullying you. And they won’t give that up easily.
Therefore, they only respond with anger and resentment.
“We’re in charge here! How dare you think that you can defy us!”
Again, people get offended when someone they deem inferior finally grows a spine. And they’ll do everything they can to break your will and keep getting their sick, sadistic jollies.
Understand that bullies have authoritarian personalities. They truly think they are superior.
Bullying is One Big PsyOp
Think about it. Governments and their military use psychological operations all the time. And they do it by starting propaganda campaigns.
For example, bullies start with smear campaigns and verbal abuse. This is the equivalent of government propaganda, but on a smaller scale.
Therefore, propaganda campaigns and smear campaigns are the same. Also, they both have the same purpose. To demoralize “the enemy.”
When people bully you, they see you as the enemy. Therefore, they seek to demoralize you. And if they can demoralize you, they can crush your will to stand up and fight back.
Bullying and Conditioning:
Things bullies say to demoralize you.
- “You’re not strong (pretty, smart) enough.”
- “Nobody likes you.”
- “You don’t have any friends.”
- “You can’t fight against us.”
- “You’ll always be a nobody.”
- “You’ll never amount to anything.”
- “No one will ever date you (or) marry you.”
- “You’ll never win that contest.”
- “You’ll never make the team.”
You’ll never do this, and you’ll never do that. You must realize that they make these kinds of statements to mentally subdue you.
They want to force you to give up your natural reluctance to bow down and take abuse. And they do it by slowly weakening your resolve.
If they can plant seeds of self-doubt, then they can eventually get you to hate yourself. And once you begin hating yourself, you’ll surrender. Then, they can just walk all over you.
Again, governments do the same thing to get certain groups of people to submit.
Here’s what bullies really want from you.
- Bullies want you to believe that you’re worthless.
- They want you to believe that you’re powerless.
- They want you to believe that you can’t do anything right.
- Moreover, they want you to believe that you’re an evil person.
- They want you to doubt yourself
- They want you to feel inferior.
Why? Because bullies know that whatever you believe about yourself, others will believe it too. If you don’t have confidence in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?
They want you to stop going after your dreams because they were too lazy to go after theirs. This is why they convince you that you’re a failure and that everything you set out to do will fall flat.
Their goals are to subjugate you so they can feel superior.
Bullying and Conditioning:
Psyops create opportunities that otherwise might not come to fruition.
- The opportunity to keep you silent and from talking about their abuse.
- The opportunity to use you to further their selfish agendas.
You see, if your bullies can silence you, then they can bully you safely. They don’t have to worry about being detected.
Therefore, they can continue to get that rush of power and feel superior. They can use your shortcomings to distract attention away from their own.
Moreover, they get to make you the bad guy while they go on doing their dirt. And no one will be the wiser.
Think about it. If they can ruin your reputation and make you the troublemaker, then others won’t suspect it’s them stirring the bullshit. They’ll look over at you instead.
Where there’s smoke, there’s fire.
Where there’s smoke, there’s fire. And if people expect trouble to come from a certain person, then that’s who they’re going to look at.
This requires changing public opinion about you. If bullies can demonize you in the eyes of others, they can cut you off from friendships. And friends mean support.
Once they cut you off from support, then they can bully you at will. And why not? If everyone hates you, they’ll believe that you deserve the abuse. And, they’ll never help you.
Bullying and Conditioning:
In conclusion
The more you know, the better you protect yourself. Therefore, you must get wise to these things.
Again, conditioning starts out small. You must know how to recognize it when it starts. Because the longer it goes on and the bigger the abuses get, the harder it is to defend yourself.
And what helps you to recognize it from the start is that your body feels it. Also, you’ll sense it in the vibes people around you give off. So, pay attention.
And lastly, never let them cause you to stop believing in yourself. Never let them destroy your confidence. Don’t fall for it when they gaslight you.
And, whatever you do, never let them cause you to hate yourself. Never allow the bullying to get so bad that you have to leave the environment.
Always stand up for yourself and call them out. Because, in doing so, you keep mental barriers in place to protect yourself.
You keep your reputation; you keep the support of others. Most importantly, you keep your confidence, your self-belief, and your healthy self-esteem.
This post was all about bullying and conditioning so that you’ll recognize the slow, gradual effects of bullying and protect yourself against them.
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