Want to know about jealousy-driven bullying? It’s a fact that most bullying comes from envy. Here are all the signs your bullies bully you because they envy you.
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What most victims of bullying don’t realize is that most bullying comes from jealousy. Therefore, in this post, you will learn about jealousy-driven bullying and all the signs that they’re abusing you because they’re jealous.
Once you learn these facts, you will feel much better about yourself, knowing they don’t do it because there’s something wrong with you. They bully you because you’re doing something right.
This post is all about jealousy-driven bullying, so that you can have confidence in yourself even when people treat you badly.
Jealousy-Driven Bullying
This kind of bullying is more common than you think. They may be jealous of something you have. Or it could be a personality trait you have that they wish they had.
Whatever the reason, when bullies are jealous of you, it only means that they feel inferior to you. Therefore, they have to bully you to make themselves look superior.
So, what is jealousy-driven bullying. It’s when a bully targets another person out of envy and a desire to have what the victim has. Again, it could be something material. Or it could be a characteristic.
Your bullies will never admit it. Therefore, we need to know the signs.
Remarks Bullies Make Anytime You Succeed at Something
Isn’t it funny that when you do something right, when they succeed, bullies have a smear-fest? And they will do so especially if you receive recognition for a job well done.
Is it only when you win an award or do a good deed that bullies protest the loudest? They work feverishly to minimize any positive qualities and maximize the negative ones.
Bullies will also be quick to bring up a past mistake or wrongdoing. But understand this right now. They do it to overshadow your accomplishment. It’s the only way they can throw shade on your positive qualities.
Jealousy-Driven Bullying:
When you’re up, bullies will try to pull you back down.
I’ve had firsthand experience with this because my classmates did the same to me. Even later, a few envious coworkers did too.
Understand that, if you’re a target of bullying, your bullies see you as the bad guy. And they want everyone else to see you the same way.
They can’t even stand the thought of you achieving success, let alone getting recognized for it. Therefore, whenever you score a win, expect your bullies to do everything in their power to downplay it.
They may remind you of a mistake you made decades ago, when you were a foolish kid. They may also make all kinds of wild accusations about your win. Here are a few cruel remarks bullies will make.
1. You cheated.
Your bullies will refuse to believe that you won that coveted award through hard work. And they’ll move Heaven and Earth to convince you and everyone else of it, too.
“There’s no way she could’ve won that prize honestly! There’s no way!”
“She had to have cheated! Who in their right mind would make her the winner!”
“There’s more to this than meets the eye!”
Don’t fall for it! And don’t fret if others choose to foolishly believe the bullies. Instead, see it for what it is and what it’s meant to do.
This is designed to dull your shine and cast doubt in others’ minds. Your bullies mean to make others assume that your success or accolades are illegitimate.
It implies that you didn’t come by them fairly. It’s also designed to discredit you and cause others to resent you.
Jealousy-Driven Bullying:
2. It was just plain luck.
Let’s say you make a good grade at school. Your school bullies and other classmates may pass it off as you being lucky. Realize that when they say these things, they mean to discredit your abilities.
Moreover, they want to cheapen your success in the eyes of those around you. The underlying message is that you couldn’t have made it if you tried. And that your accomplishment was some freak accident.
3. You kiss arse.
Ah, yes! Your bullies will say that you sucked up and won favor with the right people. They will accuse you of scoring “brownie points.”
They will whine, saying that the person whose ass you kissed gave you a boost. And they will say that you got an unfair advantage.
Again, this is designed to discredit you and undermine your abilities and intelligence. It’s also meant to instill intense anger and resentment toward you in others.
4. You slept your way to success.
For example, you’re a woman who’s a target of workplace bullying. And you happen to get that coveted promotion you and several competitors have been vying for.
Therefore, be prepared to get accused of “f***ing the boss man.” Bullies don’t censor their words, and that’s exactly what they’ll say.
Also, let’s say that your workplace bullies are trying to get you fired. And your boss happens to know better and goes to bat for you. They will also accuse you of giving sexual favors.
And sadly, this is the most common accusation if you are female.
Jealousy-Driven Bullying:
Why DO THEY MAKE THESE ACCUSATIONS?
Let’s use number four, for example. Just like all the rest, this remark is meant to undermine your abilities. Bullies want to trivialize your smarts and discredit you.
They want to cheapen your accomplishments in others’ eyes. At the same time, they want to provoke anger, hatred, and resentment toward you.
It’s also meant to degrade you as a lady. By accusing you of trading sex for favor, bullies instill in others the belief that you’re nothing but an opportunistic slut. And you’ll spread your legs to get ahead in life.
This happened to me when I worked at a nursing home years ago, and let me tell you. It wasn’t fun!
But don’t fret over any of this! I want you to see it for what it is. It’s jealousy, poor sportsmanship, and trash-talk!
The key to keeping your confidence is to realize what’s behind the trash-talk.
You must see it for what it is and what it means. And what it is, is jealousy. And what it means is that your bullies are a bunch of crybabies.
They’re whining and foaming at the mouth because they didn’t get that cookie, and you did! Therefore, they feel inferior, and they can no longer be the center of attention.
It means that they feel cheated and indignant. And when they behave like this, they expose themselves as the real losers!
Jealousy-Driven Bullying:
Accusations are usually confessions.
But wait! Here’s something else most people rarely think about. If you’re a target or survivor of bullying, you’re going to love this little gem of truth!
Anytime your bullies make any of the above accusations, it’s a confession. In other words, your bullies are projecting. They’re accusing you of the very things they either would do or are doing themselves!
Think about it. How many husbands have falsely accused their innocent wives of cheating, only to end up being caught cheating themselves?
It’s the same when bullies falsely accuse you of wrongdoing. Anytime they are so quick to point fingers at you for an alleged transgression, it’s a good sign they’re committing the same sins themselves.
They’re just trying to cover their own behinds. Always remember that!
Jealousy exposes inferiority.
Jealousy is downright ugly. It really is. Not only does it produce rage, but it also exposes inferiority. Why? Because you’re inferior to the people you envy.
This is why it’s the one emotion that people work damn hard to hide. You see? Bullying is about power. When bullies target someone, they do it to control that person. In other words, they do it to feel and look superior to the victim.
So, when bullies bully you out of jealousy, they, in a way, admit that they’re inferior to you. They want something you have. But they don’t feel they can ever get it. Therefore, they abuse you to make up for that.
Jealousy-Driven Bullying:
Here’s what they’re saying through their behavior.
“You’ve got it, I want it, and I can never get it! So, because you have it, I’m going to make you suffer for it!”
“If I can’t have it, then, by George, you can’t have it either!”
“I want it, you’ve got it, and I hate you for having what I want!”
In conclusion
When envious bullies bully you, your pain gives them a sense of justice. By making you feel bad about yourself, the bullies are “leveling the playing field.” They’re evening it up. They’re reinforcing their sense of fairness.
Let’s say that you have talent in swimming, and it’s what you love to do. Your talent has won you many awards, and your bullies are mad jealous. And they make you feel horrible about yourself by turning all your friends against you.
The message is this.
“She may have talent, but she has no friends. So, at least I have that one up on her!”
This is how jealous bullies think. Therefore, never apologize for your successes. Be proud of your accomplishments. And defend yourself if you must.
This post was all about jealousy-driven bullying so that you know the signs of it and continue to feel good about yourself even if they mistreat you.
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